Have you ever loved someone where limits didn't exist between each other? You felt so embraced by the warmth radiated off their body when they were standing next to yours. The love that seems to lift you up and hold you above the ground. It takes a love so pure to take you through the darkest, ugliest situations in life. The strength of a relationship comes
from the places most people are afraid to enter. Every obstacle embarked
and conquered is one step closer to another person.
Most people in the world are searching for their "other half". They seem to be searching endlessly until they can't help but give up. Their search is discontinued due to the inability to see within themselves, they are not whole. The search for another being is their subconsicous hole the are trying to fill without being hole themselves. The need to fill ourselves with an external force whether it be relationships, drugs,
money, anything really, seems to be the easy and faster way to our satisfaction. Although we find it easier to grasp, it never seems to last or fulfill our soul entirely. We cheat ourselves from finding that real source of
love.
The most important person in this world is you. It took me 20 years
to understand what this truly means. I am not saying to be selfish and not care about others. Simply, it is acknowledging that in order to have a fulfilling relationships with anyone in our lives, the relationship with ourselves must be engaged first. Having a friendship with you is the first step to all relationships. We learn to love who we are. First we start with our thoughts. I know for me this was the most vital place to start. The Law of Thinking. Our thoughts control our actions. Our thoughts are sacred energy that shape our reality. I had issues not only thinking of positively of myself, but others as well. Judging others almost always is an insecurity or a part of ourselves we are not facing. When we work on ourselves we change our perceptions of others too. Second, saying positive affirmations of who we are and increasing our outlook on the world. By putting positivity into the world, we are also attracting more positivity to us.
My spiritual mentor has helped me so much these past 2 years. I have gone through tremdendous changes, as well as cycles of the same situations. I had to love myself enough to be honest with me. I had throw away all of the old ideas that were no longer serving me. The people who were not bad, but unhealthy in my life. The food I ate. Everything had to change and it did. I am more clear on who I am and I set boundaries for myself. Limitless boundaries play a signifcant role with ourselves and others.
Boundaries are made to be broken -- at some point or another. The question is when and how far will we let others go? We think to ourselves that other people take advantage of us. "He walked all over me", "She just didn't know
when to stop".. This seems to be the case when we are falling into victim mode. A role I played very well, most of the time
without even knowing I was doing so. I had to take a look at what part I played, which was either not setting boundaries or allowing people to break the boundaries. All this time I had been blaming others for something I did. When this was realized, so many of my relationships grew stronger. I am able to communicate with people better and speak up for myself without reacting negatively.
Sometimes looking for other people to fulfill us seems to be the answer. If we know who we truly are, it doesn't seem to make that big of a difference anymore. A relationship with someone will no longer be a game. It will be a time where we truly share who we are and what we love with another person, instead of looking what we can gain out of it. We will truly know how to love and how to be loved.
from the places most people are afraid to enter. Every obstacle embarked
and conquered is one step closer to another person.
Most people in the world are searching for their "other half". They seem to be searching endlessly until they can't help but give up. Their search is discontinued due to the inability to see within themselves, they are not whole. The search for another being is their subconsicous hole the are trying to fill without being hole themselves. The need to fill ourselves with an external force whether it be relationships, drugs,
money, anything really, seems to be the easy and faster way to our satisfaction. Although we find it easier to grasp, it never seems to last or fulfill our soul entirely. We cheat ourselves from finding that real source of
love.
The most important person in this world is you. It took me 20 years
to understand what this truly means. I am not saying to be selfish and not care about others. Simply, it is acknowledging that in order to have a fulfilling relationships with anyone in our lives, the relationship with ourselves must be engaged first. Having a friendship with you is the first step to all relationships. We learn to love who we are. First we start with our thoughts. I know for me this was the most vital place to start. The Law of Thinking. Our thoughts control our actions. Our thoughts are sacred energy that shape our reality. I had issues not only thinking of positively of myself, but others as well. Judging others almost always is an insecurity or a part of ourselves we are not facing. When we work on ourselves we change our perceptions of others too. Second, saying positive affirmations of who we are and increasing our outlook on the world. By putting positivity into the world, we are also attracting more positivity to us.
My spiritual mentor has helped me so much these past 2 years. I have gone through tremdendous changes, as well as cycles of the same situations. I had to love myself enough to be honest with me. I had throw away all of the old ideas that were no longer serving me. The people who were not bad, but unhealthy in my life. The food I ate. Everything had to change and it did. I am more clear on who I am and I set boundaries for myself. Limitless boundaries play a signifcant role with ourselves and others.
Boundaries are made to be broken -- at some point or another. The question is when and how far will we let others go? We think to ourselves that other people take advantage of us. "He walked all over me", "She just didn't know
when to stop".. This seems to be the case when we are falling into victim mode. A role I played very well, most of the time
without even knowing I was doing so. I had to take a look at what part I played, which was either not setting boundaries or allowing people to break the boundaries. All this time I had been blaming others for something I did. When this was realized, so many of my relationships grew stronger. I am able to communicate with people better and speak up for myself without reacting negatively.
Sometimes looking for other people to fulfill us seems to be the answer. If we know who we truly are, it doesn't seem to make that big of a difference anymore. A relationship with someone will no longer be a game. It will be a time where we truly share who we are and what we love with another person, instead of looking what we can gain out of it. We will truly know how to love and how to be loved.
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